Why is that so hard for us to do? Why is it so hard to see ourselves how others see us? We are all beautiful and unique and have so much to give the world, yet we fall short of being who we want to be by letting others, as well as our own selves, get in the way. We face self-doubt, anxiety, insecurity, and the fear of being judged stand in our way. We look at others and think they have it easier or better than we do. We compare. We beat ourselves up. All for what? Does beating ourselves up really benefit anyone? Or help us better ourselves? It doesn’t help at all.
We as individuals are so beautiful inside and out, with so much to give the world. Some of us are creative, some of us are musical, while others are athletic. Some of us are girly, while some of us live in our sweats. Some of us love to travel, while others enjoy staying home reading a good book. All of these are okay! We are businesswomen, we are stay-at-home moms. We are high school students, we are grandparents. We are Target shoppers and Chick-fil-a lovers. Whatever your role in life may be, you are the most qualified and best person for that position. Each role is important and unique. No one could be a better student, teacher, mother, daughter, sister, grandma, boss, athlete, dancer, or whatever you may be. You have a superpower that no one else has, and that is that you are YOU. There is no one else in the world like you. No one else with your qualities, your smile, your personality. You are perfect in every way, perfectly you.
So how do we get past self-doubt, judgment from others, and our own insecurities? How do we become confident and empowering women? There is no perfect answer, and not one single way to get there. But these are some tips and tricks of things that have helped me on this journey.
1. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Hang them up on your mirror in the bathroom, put them in your car, take them to work. These are words that are encouraging to you. These are:
- I am enough.
- I am beautiful.
- I am an amazing wife.
- I am a great student.
- I am the best mom for my children.
- I am doing the best I can.
Find whatever works for you and whatever you may need to hear.
2. SELF-HELP BOOK CLUB
Books are powerful. Taking the time to read, and reading anything, is a great way to take time for yourself. These books have changed my outlook on life in so many ways. They give the best strategies on how to really put yourself first. I loved reading these, I would definitely recommend for a friend!
3. GET MOVING!
The more exercise you get, the better you will feel mentally, physically, and in every aspect of your life. Sometimes moving is the last thing you want to do, but it makes a difference. Even going for a walk or just doing something small will make you feel better! Endorphins make you happy!
Sleep is also a big thing to help energize and uplift your mood. We sleep for almost ⅓ of our life, so we might as well take advantage of it!
4. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE
Do something that makes you happy! A painting class, a hike, a Netflix marathon. A yoga class, a road trip, a podcast. Make sure you are making time for yourself. You have to remember that you are your own person. You may be an amazing mother, boss, wife, hairstylist, nurse, sister, or whatever you may be. But you also need to be an individual. Take a nice bath, get a massage, get your nails done, pick up your favorite drink or treat, whatever sounds good to you. Make sure you are making that time for yourself.
5. Limit the negativity
Social media, reality TV, junk food, a toxic relationship, whatever it is that is bringing you down. I am not saying get rid of your Instagram or stop watching Bachelor (die-hard fan over here!). I am just saying limit the things that are having a negative impact on your life. Social Media plays a big part in making you feel like everyone else has a perfect life. I guarantee people are thinking the exact same thing about you, so don’t beat yourself up. We are meant to build each other up as women, not tear each other down. If social media is getting you down, limit yourself. Put reminders on your phone. Mute friends who add to the negativity. Maybe set a timer and only let yourself go on for 30 minutes a day. See how much of a difference it makes for you! You will be surprised.
6. BE HONEST
Ask yourself, “What do I want for my life?”
I know this question may seem daunting, but if you don’t ask yourself this, where is your life going to go? If you have a clear vision in mind, and you look at it on a daily basis, it will help you feel better about yourself having goals and working towards them. Some examples may be that you want to become a sports broadcaster or a traveling nurse. The dream could be to be a musician or make it to the Olympics. It could also be things as small as just wanting to get back in shape or to eat a cleaner diet. Whatever it may be, figure out what you want for your life and remind yourself of that goal on a daily basis!
7. Kindness always wins
Don’t just let your bad day, bad attitude, depression, or anxiety win. The simplest way to feel uplifted is an act of kindness for someone else. May it be a loved one or a stranger, doing something nice for others will always lift you up, because you’re making others happy in the process. Let someone merge into your lane, pay for a stranger’s cup of coffee, surprise your co-worker or best friend with cookies, hold the door, speak with patience, volunteer, message an old friend hello, write a thank you note, offer to babysit, pick up trash, support small business.
Believe in yourself. You are beautiful, you are kind. You are intelligent, you are funny. You are everything you are supposed to be and so much more. Love yourself like your life depends on it ♥️
with Team JessaKae
I love this! You seem like a sweet soul. I’ll have to check out one of the books you recommended :)